Avoiding Self-Sabotage

Lots of people avoid therapy to work on deeper feelings like feeling unlovable or that they aren’t good enough. We love believing that if we just address the stresses of the week, like dealing with an overbearing boss, avoiding a nitpicky mom, or actually doing the laundry that has been piling up, that our lives will be fixed and that we don’t need help. However, even when we handle those surface level issues, it always feels like another one pops up.

In the beginning of Drama Free, by Nedra Glover Tawwab, she outlines it succinctly, “If you stay in a cycle of dysfunction, your feelings of unworthiness might cause you to unconsciously sabotage yourself from having good things or healthy relationships.” This is why you need to dig deeper, dredge up those memories from you past you’ve tried to keep buried, maybe even getting into therapy to feel safe going there. If you don’t, you’ll keep holding yourself back from the life that you deserve!

“If you stay in a cycle of dysfunction, your feelings of unworthiness might cause you to unconsciously sabotage yourself from having good things or healthy relationships.”

~ Drama Free by Nedra Glover Tawwab