Boundaries Improve Relationships

Most of my people-pleasing clients know in theory that boundaries are good, but they become fearful that setting boundaries means losing relationships they care about and cherish. However, Nedra Glover Tawwab said it well in her book, Set Boundaries, Find Peace, “Boundaries are the cure to most relationship problems. But both parties have to participate and respect the boundaries on either side." Setting boundaries simply means sharing your comfort level and communicating what you need from another person to be more comfortable. When you don’t set boundaries, you either end up letting yourself down, building up resentment as your comfort gets ignored, or you set up the other person to fail. If you are worried about others leaving you if your boundaries inconvenience them, then you aren’t honoring yourself, and you are putting their feelings as far more important than yours. You deserve to have others care about how you feel.

“Boundaries are the cure to most relationship problems. But both parties have to participate and respect the boundaries on either side."

~ Set Boundaries, Find Peace, by Nedra Glover Tawwab